Dr. Steven S. Steele | D.Min., M.Div., C.P.E.
Dr. Steven S. Steele | D.Min., M.Div., C.P.E.
ThriveNow - Professional Counseling & Coaching | South Bay, CA

Thrive Now  

Couples Counseling


 Individual Therapy


Thrivenow | Couples Counseling & individual therapy | South Bay, CA

The Craftsmanship of Relationships

HOW IS IT POSSIBLE TO BE MASTERS IN THE SILICON VALLEY WORKPLACE but feel so alone and distant in our marriages?  With fast-paced and performance living, we have had so little margin and energy to develop our relational lives. As a result, we have steady relationships in our workplace but can feel so utterly unknown and distant in our relational lives where intimacy has slowly drifted away over time.  What is needed is a new mastery of communication skills for you and your partner in order to renew and develop a lasting intimate relationship with one another.

I HAVE BEEN WORKING WITH COUPLES FOR OVER 20 YEARS -  not only do I bring an expertise in relational research as a pastoral counseling practitioner, but more personally, I know firsthand the pressures and life cycles of marriage through the ups and downs of my own.  A lasting and thriving marriage is definitely not for the faint of heart!  Marriage is one of the most courageous and rewarding work you and I will ever do.  And the wisest amongst us recognize that we can not do this marriage thing alone and we need the professional guidance of another to help us navigate the fluidity of our ever-changing relationship. 

WE WILL WORK WITH SURGICAL PRECISION in counseling by identifying places where you are stuck in your marriage.  You will be coached on becoming a master in the relational science of communication skills for increasing individual and couple satisfaction.   And through direct intervention, together we will intentionally change patterns that have hounded you for years.  

SOME COUPLES REPORT RENEWING IMPROVEMENT to understanding their own needs better and move from being disconnected to becoming intimately connected to their partner - a renewal to self and of friendship to their spouse.  And even some couples come back from the brink of divorce.

THIS RELATIONAL COACHING IS A LOT LIKE JAZZ - it's imaginative, integrative, precise, challenging in the deeper individual and relational work, and uniquely instructive to you by which many couples and individuals account meaningful, significant and enduring transformation  - whether it's beginning, renewing, discerning to stay married or navigating divorce, let's design something that fits your needs.

I ADMIRE YOU FOR COURAGEOUSLY SEEKING ASSISTANCE in your marriage.  Quite frankly, I love what I do!  I've seen and heard just about everything under the sun.  For this reason, I consider the opportunity to be invited to work with you is like walking on sacred ground.

MY ROLE AS A THERAPIST…For you to eventually fire me!  Yes, that's right.  I want to help you become the best partner to yourself and your spouse.  I want to give you the tools necessary to break through the gridlocks, improve communication, understand patterns so that you can masterly navigate issues and to ultimately help you get what you really need from one another.  Don't worry, we'll stick together for as long as it takes until you and your spouse are confident enough to apply the new tools to the new you and your ever changing relational dynamics.


20+ Years of Experience

Doctorate, Princeton Seminary (Industrial & Organizational Psychology emphasis) | M.Div., Fuller Seminary (Family Systems Trained Practitioner) | Certified Counselor, Prepare & Enrich | Certified Level 3 Couples Therapist - The Gottman Institute | Certified C.P.E. |  Trained Executive Coach | Certified Hospice Counselor | Member of the American Assoc. of Christian Counselors | Verified Pastoral Counselor of Psychology Today | Preferred L-3 Couples Therapist, The Gottman Institute | Relational Life Therapist (RLT) L-1

Alive and Kicking

Even when life challenges us, it’s a gift beyond measure.
— Parker Palmer
It’s a painful time of conflict that I first began to experience myself as more than one. It was as though I sat in the midst of many selves.
— Elizabeth O'Conner
Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing themselves.
— Leo Tolstoy
You don’t have to be interesting. You have to be interested.
— John M. Gottman

sacred ground | Catalyst for transformation

I believe vulnerability leads to relational wholeness and transformation.  To be invited to enter into the life of another becomes the sacred ground of the Master's workshop. 

Vacant Interstellar Places

the wonder from within

Being internally lost...there's a vastness to self..there's places of exploration like one would find as an astronaut sailing in the mysteries of space.

~T.S. Elliot